episode 24. MIXED SIGNALS

who do we follow? thelawdsway

With the societal traditions and cultures in place, we are in the 'cuffing season' (forming romantic relationships). As much as this is true, I find this time for many to be the 'cutting out' season as well.

We're in the final weeks of 2025 and it's possible for us to have already started planning who we're aspiring to be in 2026 and who will be there with us throughout the experiences next year will bring. A big part of finding yourself and the ability to do such thing is influenced by the people around us and the environments we find ourselves in with said people:

Good signals- surrounded by people who are winning and lifting you up to see you win as well.

Mixed signals- the love, respect and encouragement are there but there's a lack of support in your goals.

Bad signals- you're surrounded by enemies and people praying on your downfall.

If you're surrounded by good signals, keep these people close and as much as they are being there for you to push you and see you win, make sure you're keeping the same energy and being there for them as well. Genuine friendships are rare to find so when you find your people: make time for them, put in the effort to work things out and don't let them go.

If you're surrounded by bad signals, it's time to reflect on those relationships and see whether it's worth the time and effort to still put up with their antics, when you know deep down the outcome won't be good. Just because they were good to you and there for you in the past, people have the capacity to change, and that change may no longer be an individual you neither want/need to associate with.

Now with mixed signals- they are confusing to deal with. To be honest, if someone is giving you mixed signals, the most likely thing to do is cut because you shouldn't need to question where you stand with someone on a constant basis- both in a friend or romantic manner. This is also vice versa if someone was to cut you off if they felt you were giving them mixed signals and weird energy.

The confusion then comes from where it's someone you know will always back you in a theoretical sense but when push comes to shove, they're nowhere to be found. Now they may be going through a season of change themselves at the same time you needed them. If this turns out to be the case, then discretion and discernment must be used in deciding how you will deal with this situation- on the outcome of either using this as a reason to cut or with understanding that they didn't have the capability, in that moment of time, to be there for themselves let alone for a whole other human being in addition to what they were facing.

It's very easy to people please to the detriment of yourself and the people pleasing goes unnoticed where everyone has assumed you for the role to be there for them no matter what. This may be good, to an extent, as it shows your loyalty- however if the energy isn't being reciprocated to yourself, what good is it doing for you now and in the long term?

Cutting people off isn't easy and it isn't something that should be taken lightly and done with no reflection. After all, in this world that we're living in, you need people around you. So, if you are planning to re-shift the people around you and are deciding to cut, make sure the reason is valid for yourself and the person you are shaping yourself to become in the new year.

You're seeking to elevate- have people around who will elevate you.

You're seeking to grow- have people around who will aid to your growth.

You're seeking to heal- have people around who will provide you with the time and resources to heal.

Whilst you're doing all of this and figuring everything out, don't overlook the boundaries the people around you are also creating for themselves and make sure you're just as good as a person to them as they are to you.

Proverbs 27:17 ”as iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend."

Remember, Trust in the Lord, Love like the Lord and Walk with the Lord. TLW

who do we follow? thelawdsway